Students give opinion on “girl code”

Ladies, this one’s for you. We know maneuvering through relationships can be difficult and confusing. So we asked some girls for answers to the questions we all have.


Featherduster: How can you be the best wingwoman?


Freshman: Be there and support them. I’ve said this like 30,000 times — if it’s with guys, allow them to pick a guy. Don’t throw them towards a guy, but also make sure the guy’s not nasty and gross.


Sophomore: I would say if you have a friendship that’s very meaningful… it’s very important to have a lot of respect and a lot of kindness and a lot of unending love for your friend. No matter what they’re going through or no matter what situation you’re going through. Being a wingwoman is kinda like you’re flying right there with them and you’re not gonna leave them solo. But it’s also when they’re in a dark time, guide them in a way of light and in a way of grace.


Junior: It’s mostly just being there for them no matter what’s going on. My whole friend group, when it comes to guys, were all really shy except for me. They’re all just like,’What if he doesn’t like me,’ and I’m that one who has to give then the shove. Honestly just do it! It’s a boy — they’re dumb. If you like them that much, just ask them. Push them and just yell, ‘Get some,’ and run away — not actually, but I just don’t see the whole [problem]. When it comes to me being a wingwoman, I don’t sugar coat things, so I’m not like, ‘Don’t worry about it.’ I’m like, ‘Yeah, he might say no but who cares? Like I said, he’s a dumb boy!’


Senior: Just know when your friend needs a little help and be a good friend. Be there for them to give them a little push if they are shy, and be confident.


FD: Can girls have a guy best friend? Do you have one?


Freshman: My second-best friend is a guy and I just love him so much. I mean it can get hard sometimes because there are some things that guys just won’t understand no matter what, but he’s just always there for me and supports me no matter what.


Sophomore: Of course. I have two guy friends who I’m very close with. We go to the same camp during summer. Funny thing is, they actually didn’t like me until last summer. They thought I was very weird and loud, which I don’t blame them for because I am. But we soon found out we have a lot in common and share so many common interests. We also make each other laugh, like a lot. Another side note for any boys out there stuck in the best friend zone, just know if Ron can get out and date Kim, from Kim Possible, you can make it out too.


Senior: You can definitely have guy best friends. I find sometimes guys are easier to deal with than girls, because the drama [between] girls can be really hard to deal with. Your guy best friend is someone you can go to and say, “This is going insane.” They don’t understand why the drama’s happening but it’s nice to be able to talk to him with no questions asked.


FD: What can’t you do with a guy best friend that you can do with a girl bestfriend?


Freshman: Most parents won’t let you have a sleepover with them. I feel like you talk a lot at sleepovers and that’s where you really let everything go. I mean there’s always going to be that barrier of, “He’s a guy and I’m a girl,” but overall I think you can tell a guy anything.


Sophomore: Cuddling, going the bathroom together, sleepovers (I’ve never been to a coed sleepover so …), change in front of each other, your menstrual cycle can’t sync up with a guy, and y’all can’t be awkward full moon sisters, etc.


Senior: It’s just the division between guy and girl is strong in our society, so sometimes that can be a little challenging to handle. But I think you can have a guy best friend without crossing a barrier.


FD: How do you handle a friendship breakup?


Freshman: I feel like friendship breakups are worse than relationship breakups. I know this is coming from a freshman, but I think it’s hard to break up with your closest friend because you tell them absolutely everything, and you trusted them with so much of your life. Losing them hurts so much but I’d say just give yourself time because it does hurt a lot, and then go out and meet new people.


Sophomore: Well, I usually talk with my mom whenever I go through a friend breakup. My mom always gives me the best advice, because guess what, she was a teenager too once.


Junior: When it comes to a boyfriend and one of my best friends there is just so much more I trust my best friends with. I love them way more. I’ve recently had a few friendship breakups, and it’s been really crappy, and I feel like the best way to deal with that is if you want to fix it, you just have to talk to them a lot and if you don’t want to fix it, you just really need to distance yourself.


Senior: I think the worst part is when the friend is within a friend group that you still talk to, because you want to just distance yourself from them but you still have to be in their lives. This is the person you tell everything to, and guys come and go but girls and best friends are expected to be there forever. It’s kind of hard when that happens — it hurts, but at the same time they were not treating you well, and you [are] better off.


FD: How old should kids be before dating?


Freshman: I can’t really say. I had a boyfriend last year, so I don’t want to be a hypocrite, but I think it’s up to the person and how fast they’re maturing.


Sophomore: Definitely not middle school, because that’s a mess, and it isn’t even real, and it won’t last. I still haven’t had my first “real” relationship yet because I’m too busy. I think people should date whenever they’re mature enough to realize that people have feelings.


Junior: I had a boyfriend in sixth grade and it was my first boyfriend, but boyfriends in sixth grade aren’t boyfriends. That’s not a real relationship, that’s like, “We’re going to the movies, but my mom’s right behind us.” Until at least one of you can drive, then you can go on actual dates.


Senior: I don’t think there’s a set age on when you should or shouldn’t date it’s a case-by-case basis, but also those relationships in middle school aren’t really real relationships. I don’t think you can have a real relationship until I would say college, because you’re still living at home and sometimes your parents have to drive you to dates, and once you’re out of high school you’re probably going to breakup because distance.


FD: What are your thoughts on PDA?


Freshman: Yikes. There is some PDA that is fine, but it’s making the other person comfortable while you are still comfortable and making everyone else around you comfortable. There’s a point to where it is too much in public . . . Yeah, there’s some that’s like no.


Sophomore: Stay five bible lengths from each other. Leave room for Jesus, kids. Jk, if you’re going to be all PDA please just get a room. Preferably one not at school.

Junior: My thing with PDA is it’s OK to an extent. Holding hands or hugging or giving a quick kiss before class or something is whatever. But we all know those extra couples that are in the hallways and you’re just like, “Calm yourself. I’m just trying to get to lunch. I don’t want to see that.”


Senior: Oh yeah. There are always those couples that are in the middle of the hallway just completely oblivious to everyone trying to get around them. It’s really awkward and you’re just like, “Why? Why at school do you do this? If you’re at a park I don’t care but you’re in the middle of a hallway with teachers literally a door down.”